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  • Shawna - Insightful! In fact, the smarter you are, the more you need this book.I greatly enjoyed what Kara had to say, and in the way she said it. I know we all have heard it many times, but for some of us it doesn't seem to sink in. I saw myself, making the same mistake over and over, on every page. How stupid am I? Ironically, like every other woman who eventually picks up a book (or 12) to try to get some insight into what the problem actually is, I am truly a bright person. But I guess my intelligence worked against me. As a problem solver, I took all of the right steps to solve the problem as I understood it: I needed to try harder to make the guy I like to like me. Unfortunately, I framed the problem all wrong. I repeatedly made a type III error--I was too available. I can see where that may have lead guys to question what was wrong with me. Frankly I blame women's magazines like Cosmo and Glamour for making us all a bunch of needy sluts (joking...kinda).

    I am not saying male behavior is great and we should all conform to the rules for the sake of having a man. In fact, we as women may need to deeply consider what it is we really want. I have discovered in my relationship journeys that maybe jumping through all these hoops in order to have a husband or boyfriend may not be worth the effort. If you are a woman who wants to have children, needs financial support from a man, or simply cannot stand to be alone due to how others stigmatize single women, your needs justify the actions outlined in this insightful book. However, if you are a strong, successful woman who likes herself and is looking mainly for companionship, you may want to look for it in your friends--male and female--and find another way to fulfill your physical needs, if needed. I am concerned that I may jump through all of these hoops to end up in a relationship with a man who treats me no differently after 4 months than he did if I had been too easy. I just get the sense that the dysfunction we need to work around in order to have a committed relationship with a man is actually a much more serious problem than we realize.
  • SonnetL - Beautiful bookI went online to buy Peter Egoscue's book "Pain Free" (which I also bought). I'd like the thank the kind reviewer in that forum who recommended this book instead. I just got it today and, while I haven't really completed any exercises yet, have already skimmed through the whole thing and tried the first exercise, at least. So you know, I am a body worker and have studied yoga as well.

    First, this is a beautiful book. There are many color photos of people from around the world with natural posture. They provide an inspiration to try the exercises, and they show how beautiful the relaxed, unaffected human body can be.

    Second, this book addresses fundamental causes, not bandaid solutions. I do an hour or more of stretching and self-massage daily, but still have tightness and back pain. I tried yoga which helped some things but made other things worse. Every other book I have seen has given a lot of strengthening and stretching exercises - there's not time in the day to do them all, and it's discouraging when you do them but your daily life just negates all that hard work. This book addresses how you carry your body and move in daily activities so (in theory) you don't need exercises long term.

    Third, the book gives very clear instructions on how to improve your posture and movement in a carefully sequenced fashion. Many people/books have told me I need to improve my posture, by "tucking my tailbone in or out," "holding my thoracic spine straight," or "keeping my head high." What they don't understand is that if I hold my head high, for example, my back is so crooked it's very uncomfortable, the weight of my body goes straight to my low back. Better books caution against trying to hard to force a "correct" posture, but don't give guidance on how to achieve good posture if you don't already have it. This book gives clear, easy to follow exercises which are sequenced so that you work on first things first, and progress over time.

    This approach instinctively feels right to me. I agree with the author's assessment of what an ideal, healthy body should look like. I have traveled a lot. Many people in Africa and SE Asia have a natural ease in their bodies; that is exactly what I am looking for for myself, but have not known how to achieve. (Note, however, that, contrary to what the book implies, not all people in non-industrial countries are free from back pain - I have heard from farmers in Western Africa and hotel workers in Thailand who complained about back pain in spite of their excellent posture - even "traditional" people are susceptible to overuse and overload injury). I am looking forward to working through the exercises and seeing if they benefit me.

    Note, not everyone will be able to do all the exercises right away. In some cases, you may be too stuck and need therapy to help you unstick before you start (massage, PT, yoga). Perhaps that could have been explained more in the text - in those cases I think it would be great to get that therapy while gently working through what you can with your therapist on board. As a bodyworker, I think the combination of receiving serious structural bodywork (such as Rolfing or Thai bodywork) and simultaneously working through this book would be very effective. The key is not to force exercises you cannot do easily and comfortably. If you have a structural injury, the author recommends working with your doctor to see what you can do safely. This book is not a panacea, of course, also - will it cure every pain? I doubt it. But for $14 and change, for people who can read through the exercises and apply them; are willing to make some changes in their life and interested in this kind of thing, I think it is a phenomenal value. (In comparison - a decent massage session in Washington, DC costs about $120-160, and the effects usually last a few days).

    In addition to people with tight muscles, restricted breathing, or back pain, I would recommend this book to another group: new parents, especially mothers! It gives minimal information on what to do, but - at least it raises the idea that how you carry and handle your child is an ergonomic issue both for YOU (reducing bodily strain) and for YOUR CHILD (developing their body). I would love to see the author address this in a specialized book; all my friends with small children complain of back pain. My bodywork teacher in Thailand repeatedly notes how parents traditionally helped children develop healthy postures, but that Western or "modern" parents don't have this knowledge. This is exactly what is shown in the book.
  • Rainy - One of those items we cannot live without.I bought this Keurig for my husband's birthday last year. He had been wanting one for a long time, and this little brewing system did not disappoint. In fact, I love it every bit as much as my husband does, but initially I had my doubts.. I did not see how we could brew k-cups of tea and coffee without the flavors crossing, but somehow they don't. This machine is absolute magic! Every cup it makes is piping hot and perfect. If I could, I would give this product 100 stars. I don't know how we ever got along without it. We have been using it for a year and it still works like new.
  • bossnme - Best money managing software on the marketI have been a Quicken user for well over 10 years and this is probably one of the best releases they have done.With multiple accounts, reconciling is still a minor problem. If you change any entry in any account, all of the same entries change in all accounts. Finding that error can be a problem.What I have done to solve that was to red flag the entry containing the reconciled amount.On the same entry in the "memo" line, I add Balance OK (the amount).This amount is the same for the reconciled amount.The two numbers must match.So in memo, you might have Bal OK ($121.00) And balance column you would have 121.00. If you change an entry in any account, the balance column entry won't match the entry in the parentheses.
    If the two numbers don't match, then you have changed an entry somewhere on one of your accounts.Scroll up the entries until you find a red flagged entry that matches the reconciled amount. Your mistake will be found between the matching entry and the non-matching entry. At least you won't have to search through thousands of entries.Good luck.